15 Responses to “My reputation was ruined by some cruel people, how do I get over this?”

1. Stevie xo on September 28th, 2008 8:21 am
   Take this cow to small claims court for defamation of character. You should not have resigned from your job that made you look guilty of whatever this woman said about you. You should fight to get your job and your reputation back, best of luck
2. ghost on October 1st, 2008 4:09 pm
   You need to stop worrying about the neighbors. You should not have resigned.. Even if you have mental illness it is nothing to be ashamed of.
3. howllllllllll on October 2nd, 2008 11:46 pm
   some people are evil
   poor you
4. Mrs HarleyBrat on October 3rd, 2008 3:26 am
   would be more helpful if you could give us some idea of what she was saying ………………….
5. Mommy of 1 on October 5th, 2008 7:00 am
   Talk to your boss first and then talk to the woman who is still saying these things and explain nice and calmly that it is not true and you wish it would stop. Explain what is happening and that you did nothing wrong.
   don’t let them ruin your life because they want to act like kids.
6. originalkippyj on October 6th, 2008 5:08 pm
   First, you may have grounds for a slander or defamation lawsuit against the neighbor. You will need witnesses for proof. See a lawyer who specializes in that type of suit.

   Should anything like this ever happen again, you need to remember that the one thing no one can ever take away from you is your character. It speaks for itself. You can give it away, or throw it away, but they can’t take it. Next time, hold your head high, don’t stoop to their level, and fight back!

7. m0v13574r on October 8th, 2008 7:58 pm
   You can definitely take legal action for defamation.

   Also, you shouldnt have resigned from your job. Sticking to your guns would prove that these accusations, whatever they are, were false. However, running has kind of “proved” to them that they are correct .. if you understand what Im saying.

8. lylie on October 12th, 2008 5:25 am
   Don’t waste your time trying to get over it. You can’t stop people from talking.

   You can choose to walk out of your home with your head facing down because you are guilty.

   Or.., you walk with your head up because you know you have nothing to hide. Choose one,please.

9. pebblespro on October 14th, 2008 12:21 am
   I would seriously think about filing a restraining order against this work “mate” and start doing damage control. I would speak with HR/Management and let them know what is going on and put it all on the table.. The rumors the lies etc.. If you dont defend yourself people will believe what she says is TRUE! I would also nip her little gossip friend in the bud and tell her to mind her own business! People don’t like being called on the carpet… If you have a friend that works in law field (a lawyer) maybe he/she could draw up some paperwork to file a defemation suit or the like! Also, just be yourself and do your job the best that you can and soon others will realize that the other person was CRAZY and just JELOUS!

   Good luck

10. Helpful Honey on October 14th, 2008 6:24 am
    Go to your local courthouse and get a harassment restraining order on this person and her friend—it may not totally shut them up but will make them look like they are liars. Then tell your new employer the whole situation, I know it may be embarrassing but you need to let them know what is going on—tell the employer the persons name and any other info you may have on her. Tell the employer you don’t want this person showing up and not to accept calls from her—show them the restraining order. Also when you go to court, tell the official this lady has cost you your previous job—-they will grant one to you. I was in a similar situation with my ex, my employer was very understanding and accommodating. Good luck!:)
11. SoulDragon on October 14th, 2008 8:45 am
    First, do not make it worse by acting guilty. Second if it bother you so much you should grab the bull by the horns and address it directly and wholeheartedly. A mass e-mailto everyone on your department on your place of work would be a start previous talking to your manager of course. Explain how you feel, assure themis true, tell them your thoughts as you have here and ask for a second chance, I mean, even if you had donde whatever she said you did you still deserve it and address them honestly. I bet a lot of people wil be touched and many but not all will come forward and admire your courage and support you. That will also change your perception that everyone looks down on you know. I a not suggesting you are imagining the whole thing, there are people that gossip everywhere but at least half of those who do gossip are not aware ofthe harm they are doing and when becomig aware a few will back off, other willsimpathize and you will be able to restore your good name and social life. My impression is not only you are confussed as to whom your friends are but you could surely use some support here and taking a chance is the only way to get it. I know it sounds extreme, but so is moving, plus not to burst your bubble but you could always run into an ex co worker or something on your new place and you can’t certainly consider moving every time that happened. Hope this helped
12. Silvafly on October 17th, 2008 1:00 pm
    Sup girl, nah you shouldnt let people get you down.. I was in a similar scenario i resigned from my work but at the end of the day it wasnt worth it.. What you should do is carry on with your life, remember those people dont put food on your table.. Go on strut ya stuff girl you gots your whole life ahead of ya,dont let rumours get ya down…

    SA Chick

13. Cici on October 20th, 2008 3:29 am
    wow this is like a movie I saw abt the devil neighbor. Yes, find a lawyer, you need to punish that woman because she actually cost you your job. It’s serious and she can get penalized.
14. Boriquen55 on October 23rd, 2008 3:42 am
    How interesting that she moved. I`m not a lawyer nor I`m I too familiar wity laws, but shoudn`t a person that makes a statement about somene have to have documents that proves that what they are saying about that person is true? Perhaps you should see a lawyer because it may be you can sue that person for “Defamation of Character”, if she can`t produce proof of what she said about you. That woman is very jealous of you, by the way. Stand up to these people in public and demand they prove what they`re saying, put them on the spot, don`t quit your job. Don`t back down, question their evil comments and show people that they are not true. If you don`t stand up to “bullies” they are always going to beat up on you. Stand up and say loudly, ENOUGH, you`re not going to beat up on me ever again. Discredit these people to everyone you come in contact with and expose them for what they are, nothing more then sick low gossips and trouble makers. Good luck>
15. ? I ? jack sparrow ? on October 24th, 2008 12:05 pm
    What a c*nt!
    Don’t worry. Its called K-A-R-M-A!!!
    She’ll get the same back as wat she did to you 10 times worse!

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